Here's a surpsiring idea: Conflict is not bad. Conflict is ubiquitous. It is necessary for growth. Violence, of course is another story. But conflict, within us or between us, let us embrace it.
Conflict creates the need for clarification, and therefore, wisdom.
Conflict gives rise to dissatsifaction, and therefore growth.
Conflict alerts us to the need for communication, and therefore wider understanding and truer connection.